Gosh Darn It.

It's Valentine's Day today, and when I decided to change my return to London from February to March, I thought hey at least on Valentine's Day when I'm alone I'll be at home with my friends & family, and not alone in London, which is scathingly worse (and colder). But I ended up getting a date for later after all, although in a thoroughly unromantic way. The fellow is a friend and newly back in town too, seemingly with no date in sight. I didn't really care or want to go out today, but I suppose I will. It also makes me happy that he is French, and if word gets around to this girl, it might make her angry or jealous or some small-brained girl thing.

I've been hanging out with my brother's friends during my return, partially because my own friends are too bloody busy for me, partially because when my brother goes out he drives and I don't have regular car access + my dad freaks out if I go out at night, partially because there are more guys than girls in their friend group and it seems to bother them (why?). 

Long story short there was the aforementioned girl I saw for the first time, and because of a facial similarity between the two, I jokingly told this guy later on MSN that he should date her (without mentioning the facial similarity). He said he didn't think he was her type, and that someone once asked her what kind of guys she liked, and she said Chinese, Japanese and Koreans were all out, and she only wanted to date a white fellow. (Erm, as a side note her self-given name is a Japanese one. This confuses me slightly but is unimportant to my objective of this post.)

WHAT A HO! This annoys me for many reasons.

1. She is Chinese. How can someone discriminate against her own race? I believe it's okay to have preferences, but to discriminate against your own race, now that's just sad. If you don't think your own race is good enough for yourself, why should you expect another race to think you are? Like fat guys who expect to get hot, skinny girlfriends or sex fiends who expect to marry virgin girls - you are a farce, please look at yourself. Sure there may be some who are willing, but you have no authority to expect it.

2. I bet if one got a Chinese guy to stand there next to her, and say something like 'I don't think Chinese girls are attractive, I wouldn't date them,' she would lose her head! I would put my last dollar on this. Because... This other time they were all at some party which I wasn't at, and this other guy (who I coincidentally think is super cute) brought a girl they said were hot. So the guys were egging my brother on to go for the hot girl, and he was like 'Don't want to.. she's too tall'. Which is fair enough, because my brother is kind of short. Then Ho got all bristly and defensive like 'What is wrong with tall girls?!' WTF! Why you can dish it but not take it?

3. People end up grouping me, because I have dated white guys, with her. Sure, I've dated European guys, sure, I've dated American guys, but I never said I didn't like Chinese guys. I really like Chinese guys! But I look for the same things in guys of all races - attractiveness, charisma (just a little bit, not too much, on my level),  sense of humour, height-appropriate, boss-level English skills. The overlap between guys I like and guys who would like me just happens to contain more white than Chinese guys, partially because Chinese guys are so partial to girls thinner than I am. And that's okay. I'm very pragmatic about these things, and to be grouped in with some shallow, diversity-grubbing Ho annoys me supremely. 

Update: I told the French guy about her, and he thought it was stupid too, and he said he should date her just so he can say no. Although unlikely to happen, that makes me happy.