I'm not a player, I'm not even in the game.

I recently found out this guy my friend has been dating, Jabeer, thinks that I'm a player and that I'm a bad influence on her, and well, it irks the hell out of me. First of all, I met this person once for like five minutes, and the only direct things I remember saying to him was hi and asked him what version his iPhone was and whether he had games on it, to which he said no and kept typing on his phone while my friend defended him and said he was working. Then I complained to my friend about how my ex is being a stupid fucker and ignoring me at the event we were at - I mean we still lived in the same house at the time and said we were going to be friends and he couldn't even have the decency to say hi to me when we came in (but said a very friendly hi to my friend standing half a foot away from me). I think that is being quite a stupid fucker indeed, but it's all water under the bridge now, and she said me saying 'fucker' is part of why Jabeer thinks what he thinks about me.

Wow! I could start expounding on the many ways that he really is a fucker, but this isn't about me or him, it's about Jabeer. 

1. Jabeer openly admits to my friend that he used to be a player (I don't know if he's playing the 'but I'm changing for you' card, but it seems like a possibility) and he seems to think that admitting it/having being it seems to make him some sort of good judge of character on who is and isn't a player. No Jabeer, it doesn't make you more or less ignorant. Being a player is being a player is being a jerk.

2. I can count and name and date (to the month) every person I've ever kissed. Can you do that, Jabeer? Not even my friends no one would think to call a player can do that ('that' being counting and naming, dating is a bit excessive I know).

3. I have only ever had two boyfriends, but the error in judgement on the second one is a mistake on my part, probably from having not had a boyfriend for three years got to my head a bit. That's as much as I've messed up, but doesn't make me a player either.

4. I take everyone I date very seriously, and I never lead anyone I'm not interested in on.

Unfortunately Jabeer seems to be small-minded and is of a religion that encourages small-mindedness, so I don't really know why my friend is still seeing him. She goes on and on herself about how it would never work, and when I encourage her to do X thing that would find out once and for all whether it would work or not, she won't do it and keeps saying "it's not going to work out", and when I ask her to break it off she won't, and his player moves has even forced her into doing some sort of two-month trial thing the last time she wanted to stop seeing him.

On a last note, she doesn't want to have sex and he does, and when she refuses he says things like "it means you don't care about me much." W.T.F., JABEER? I THOUGHT WE LEFT HIGH SCHOOL A WHILE AGO.

Oh and she also said Jabeer thought I was flirty. -__- I would rather flirt with a can of soup.


Update: She told him she was out with me, and he said 'going clubbing?'. This was at 8 pm, and I've only gone clubbing with her ONCE, on NEW YEAR'S EVE. Can this douche be any less judgemental?